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đŸŒ± Don’t let boundaries hold you back

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Are they lil’ monsters or angels?

Like imaginary lines mentally restricting how you walk, these lil’ guys can do a lot of damage, right?

By keeping you from your dreams, goals, and even drawing you away from certain people, boundaries are often a bad thing.

But they don’t have to be, it’s just in the context you look at them.

So how do we determine what are good & bad boundaries to set?

Use common sense

Boundaries are walls that keep you from passing, and walls are meant to keep you safe.

If you ever feel uncomfortable about a situation you’re in, up goes the walls! Helping you to make the right decisions.

But what if you’re in the situation of a lifetime — a trip to the most safest place in Europe, your internet friends are meeting up for the first time ever, or you simply want to try a new cappuccino at a cafe ☕

Depending on how comfortable you are doing these things, your walls may be low to the ground or as high as a skyscraper!

So now that we’ve applied a little common sense, how do you keep those walls from holding you back to experience more?

Extend your knowledge

Often than not, the reason you’re uncomfortable getting into a good situation is because you have doubts, which are due to not having enough experience & information.

What if you just watched a true crime documentary about Europe, suddenly you think that all of Europe — even the most proven safest place, is like that too!

Try taking these steps:

1. Read up about the place you’re going and dive deep. Study enough from different reputable sources until you get the big-picture.

2. Ask someone who’s been there. Even if there’s no one IRL you can look on a web forum for someone else’s experience!

3. Look at it from a bird’s eye view, how? Google Maps! The images there are updated & can give you an idea of where you’ll be.

Having knowledge about a place can be just as good as experience. You don’t need to leap into Europe, you just have to take a small step toward it.

Push outside your comfort zone

Now that we’ve dissected why you’re uncomfortable, whether or not this is a good situation, and then becoming knowledgeable to help you at ease


Now’s the time to do it.

Again though, don’t leap into it!

_- Ask a group of friends to join you.

  • Prep with the needed supplies (if any)._

If you still feel uncomfortable, know that when you start now, any opportunities in the future will get easier!

It’s often that step over the line that’s the most frightening part. That is, until you do it again & again to become familiar with it.

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